Marriage is a delicate gift. It
can be very difficult at times to create a harmonious balance between couples.
This week I focused quite a bit on really studying the behaviors of both
successful and unsuccessful marriages, and why things went haywire. My eyes
were opened as I realized how my own parents have followed many of the steps to
a successful marriage without realizing what they were doing. Throughout my
life they have somehow nurtured a healthy relationship. How did they do this
you may ask? It is simple.
In a book called "The Seven Principles for
Making Marriage Work" by John M. Gottman, it speaks a lot about how the
foundation of a healthy, thriving relationship is based on the friendship of
the couple. A couple that takes time to laugh together, go on dates together,
play with the kids together, plan, speak, study, and pray together. As I have
worked on strengthening the relationships in my own life, I have depended on
the core friendship, and built off of that. I have learned so much as I
evaluate my situations and act accordingly.
When I was young, I would see my parents have disagreements, but they would always end up resolving the conflict, whether they went somewhere private and had a reasonable discussion, or they just ended up laughing and breaking the tension. When that friendship is strong, it will result in a beautiful, harmonious marriage. It is my goal to take the things I have learned from my own parents and carry it into the relationships I have in the future.
Relationships between loved ones are essential
for our happiness. I know that strengthening the bonds of marriage can come
from communication and trust. These two principles are the key to a successful
love story. Love your best friend. Cherish them, and focus on their needs. As
they do the same for you, the beautiful, delicate marriage will bloom.
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